Day care wins hands down. Background here is this post to the local parent listserve:
Looking for advice on finding a good caretaker who is able to do backup care when the nanny is unable to come.
Referrals or tips on finding someone appreciated.
Alternately, does anyone drop their baby off at a daycare center for a day here and there? I’m open to it but worried that without it being a routine it would be super stressful to my baby.
I told the mama last September that she should send the kid to day care. To elaborate:
Much less paperwork. You are not hiring an employee when you send your kid to day care. I will not bring up the ethical issues of paying your employees under the table.
Provider’s sick days are not your problem. Same with difficulties getting to work. Bear in mind that the people running group family day care are not commuting an hour each way every day; they live right there on the premises. Your provider will be better rested and better able to deal with your kid.
No need to supply toys, books and other materials.
No need to keep your house clean. Outside normal tolerance, of course.
No need to develop a social circle for your child.
Meals and snacks may be included in the cost.
If you want to spend the whole day or a half day with your kid, the flexibility is there. You can’t send your employee home on a whim (bear that hour-long commute in mind).
Cost is less, too.